Self-esteem means having respect for oneself. We can have both high, or positive, self-esteem and low, or negative, self-esteem.
Teenagers often struggle with self-esteem because they are put under much peer pressure. It is important for teenagers to realize it is okay to be like others, but only when they want to and can respect themselves while doing whatever it is their friends are doing.
How do you get self-esteem? Figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are. Don't compare yourself to others, but truly figure out what are your strengths and your weaknesses. Then you can set realistic goals for yourself. Plan for times when you cannot meet those goals or you mess up and make the wrong decision. Have a backup plan. Celebrate your strengths-when you accomplish something, allow yourself time to be happy about those times.
Only you know what is best for you. When you respect yourself, know your strengths and know your weaknesses, it can help you avoid making a poor decision. When you know your weaknesses, it can help you plan for things you don't need to do. If you know your strengths, then you can play off of those things and gain success. Also, if you need help in making a decision, you can always ask someone-a parent, a teacher, a counselor. Adults want to help you make the best decision, and asking for help does not mean you are incompetent. Even adults have to ask for help from time to time.
It's not always easy changing your self-esteem and making it more postive. It is hard work and may take some practice, but it is worth it in the end to respect yourself!
You make yourself a success, not something you do. Good luck, and please contact me if you need any further information about developing self-esteem.